She loves to laugh...

If you know her, she is one of the most beautiful women in your life. She smiles all the time and she loves to laugh. She'll tell you she isn't the witty one, she's the one who laughs and enjoys it more than anyone I know. That is a gift in itself; witty people appreciate those who enjoy their craft. I know that's something dad enjoys about her so much, and vice-versa. When asked how their marriage has endured for 50 years, she's quick to tell you, "Every day he shows me how much he loves me, and every day he makes me laugh."

There are few things in this life she doesn't enjoy; she is an optimist and can find the silver lining to the darkest cloud. Of all the things she loves, however, two things are held more dearly: Flowers and food. She is God's most ardent fan of anything that grows. Her gardens are a place where no volunteering plant is plucked out. Somehow there is room for all-- the more the merrier! She loves the colors and design, from the smallest forget-me-not to the flowering dogwood tree, no blossom goes unnoticed or unapplauded. The saying goes, "Earth laughs in flowers", and as I've said, mom loves a good laugh.

Perhaps it comes from her Norwegian roots, but her love of food is a joy to behold. Her mom, my Gramma, was the same way. Loved to cook for everyone-- food was a gift of love offered to those at her table. And no matter how humble the gift, it was presented with careful beauty and a sweetness of spirit. My mom offers food in the same manner. You have to look carefully--both women being terribly modest about the food being offered--but the oohs and ahhs and smiles of those around the table bring a great measure of joy to the giver.

I love to watch my mom in front of the bakery case. Her eyes light up at the sweet delights lined up like little flowers. She makes no effort to hide her excitement about maple bars and cream cheese danish, or even the lowly cake donut. She appreciates each one and is eager to make sure everyone else gets one too, and oooh, can she have a little bite please? Memories of hot fudge sundaes at Herfy's after church are as vivid now as 40 years ago. Every bite seemed to produce an exclamation of appreciation, "Mmmm, oooh! yumm!" And those are the same praises she brings to every food she so enjoys.

Bring her flowers, and she buries her face in them, drawing deeply for their scent. Bring her a pastry and her eyes light up and she bites in with gusto, relishing the experience... even now. Even now, when those two loves of her life have been taken from her in a sense, literally in a sense. Her sense of smell and her sense of taste have left her. The doctors speculate that it has to do with the perisistent migraines she's suffered with over the past several years, but nothing seems to bring them back. It seems so cruel, really. She puts her nose to the blossoms and closes her eyes, waiting for the aroma that never comes to her. I think the only thing that could be worse is if she lost her sight as well and could not enjoy their color and beauty.

Last summer when the family was here on the island my dad made one of his amazing grilled salmon dinners. We were enjoying the bounty of the Northwest-- fish, sweet corn, fresh vegetables-- and my mom made the comment she always does, "The salmon is wonderful, Monte!" and we all heartily agreed, adding our own praises from mouths stuffed with food. But in that moment as I listened to her and thought, 'but she can't taste anything!' I realized it wasn't about what she could taste. It wasn't even about the habit of manners, which certainly we all fall back on when enjoying a meal together. It was about memory. It was about the joy that grilled salmon brings to our family, and the taste of it that has a place in her memory. As I'm writing this I can close my eyes and think of how that salmon tasted. Well, mom does the same thing, but she does it for everything she eats and drinks. She still loves her coffee-- pour her a cup and she will take a sip and say, "Mmm, good coffee!" Maybe the silver lining to this cloud of hers is that she remembers how good things tasted and is thankful for the memory of them. The sweetness in it is that she still gives thanks for something that she can't taste or smell.

But then, if you know her, it's no surprise at all... her life is about praising.

And she does it so well.